How to beat your wife: here are tips from a Saudi therapist
Saudi Arabia national television aired a video in which a family therapist giving classes on how to beat wives when they show disobedience. Though the video of Muslim family therapist, Khaled Al-saqaby was aired in Saudi national channel in February this year, the episode came to light after it was picked by Washington DC-based Middle East Media Research Institute and aired in US in the month of April.
The video has drawn flak from various media and women empowerment associations across the globe.
According to the sources, the Saudi Government has given approval for the video.
The class on wife beating tips emphasizes on the “necessary Islamic conditions for beating must be met” and advises to beat wives with lighter stuffs like tooth cleaning twigs ( Miswak) and handkerchief. The video also opposes beating wives with sharper equipment and using wooden rode.
After welcoming to the show , the therapist Khaled Al-Saqaby says he is dealing with the “thorny issue,” wife beating. “I believe that the problem arises when husbands do not understand how to deal with disobedience. Some women disobey their husbands and make mistakes with them, and their husbands think this is due to inadequate treatment (of disobedience).” he said.
As the first step to ‘correct’ women, the therapist suggests to advise them “This is the first step in disciplining one’s wife. First, remind her of your rights and of her duties, according to Allah.” he said.
As the second step, he said to avoid them in the bed room without having sexual intercourse with her to show the husband’s dissatisfaction in her character.
“Then comes the third stage, the issue of beating. We have to understand that the aim is to discipline, not to vent one’s anger. The necessary Islamic conditions for beating must be met.” he reminded.
Explaining the style of beating, he said that it is prohibited in Islam to beat with sharper or heavier things like wooden rode. “Nor should it be with a headband, which some husbands use , or with a sharp object, which, I’m sad to say, some husbands use.” he added.
Instead of such things, he suggested to beat with sewak tooth-cleaning twig, citing a word (Hadith) of Prophet Muhammed which was reported by his follower Ibnu Abbas.
The family therapist also raised the instances of ‘equality’ that some women seek from their husbands. He later went on terming it as the ‘grave issue’ in the family and a great sin from wives’ part.
“Let me mention two of the many causes. The first is arguments between the wife and her husband. Unfortunately, some wives want to live a life of equality with their husband. A life of equality – you do something and I’ll do the same. This is a very grave problem,” he added.
He also blamed women who provoke their husbands to beat them saying,”beat me, if you are a man.” The programme has sought the viewers to clarify their queries regarding the issue through mails and tweets to the presenter Khaled Al-Saqaby.