“violence against women is a manifestation of historically unequal power relations between men and women” and that “violence against women is one of the crucial social mechanisms by which women are forced into a subordinate position compared with men.”– The UN Declaration on the Elimination of Violence Against Women
“… how terrible is the pain of the mind and heart when the freedom of mankind is suppressed!”
― E.A. Bucchianeri, Brushstrokes of a Gadfly
December 16, 2012…A Black Spot in the history of mankind!! The dreams, the aspirations, the integrity of a young girl subjugated, crushed and slaughtered all over again…. Target Nirbhaya executed……
Sadly, despite number of protests, laws and rulings against such heinous crimes, several ‘Nirbhayas’ of all ages, younger or older, still continue to get sacrificed, leaving behind permanent scars all over!! What actually is a greater concern, is not only such incidents, but also the mentality and thought process behind such acts, the motive with which these violent incidents and acts take place. Mukesh Singh, one of the convicts in the Nirbhaya gang rape case, said: “Women who go out at night have only themselves to blame if they attract the attention of molesters… A decent girl won’t roam around at 9 o`clock at night. A girl is far more responsible for rape than a boy. Boy and girl are not equal. Housework and housekeeping is for girls….”
Describing the gruesome incident as an “accident”, he said: “When being raped, she shouldn’t fight back. She should just be silent and allow the rape to happen.”
Looking at such incidents, sometimes, I admit, that I am compelled to think, if we really belong to a civilised human race…!! Why women constantly need to prove that they too deserve a happy and a normal life like any of their male counterpart? Who actually a ‘woman’ is? According to a dictionary definition, “A woman is an ‘adult human being’? A human being?? Really??
In practical life, it doesn’t seem so…!! It seems as if she is born to be a mere victim of her frustrated male counterpart. If not, then why is she made target for this exasperation, savagery and hatred? Why almost all crimes are against women? Why there is so much intolerance against their existence? Are they ‘so’ special that they can’t be treated as a ‘normal human being’?
It is estimated that 35 per cent of women worldwide have experienced either physical and/or sexual violence at some point in their lives. Throughout their life cycle, such vulnerable females are forced to face violence in different phases and stages… That may be in the form of prenatal sex-selective abortion; female infanticide; physical, sexual and psychological abuse; child marriage; incest; child prostitution and pornography; acid throwing; date rape; sexual abuse in the workplace; rape; sexual harassment; forced prostitution and pornography; trafficking in women; partner violence; marital rape; dowry abuse and murders; partner homicide; abuse of women with disabilities; forced pregnancy; abuses through calling names; verbal/emotional abuse; honour killings and so on….
The irony is that a woman who goes through such pain and agony in life is further tagged with more abusive, dirty and filthy names and tags too… as if she were the one who wholeheartedly and willingly wrote her destiny and chose ‘that’ trouble and pain.
Recently, there were searing discussions going on over a Pakistani social networking celebrity being murdered by her own brother in the name of honour killing; and over a female Indian political party leader being tagged with some ‘insulting’ and ‘outrageous’ name-calling by some other political party member. The same protests, complaints, judicial hearings, apologies….
Women are just as ‘normal’ or ‘abnormal’ or ‘special’ as men. A man can envy her, compete with her, but he is not ‘supposed to’ disgrace her. Neither any faith, nor any law provide a male the right to tarnish the life, character and dignity of a female. Women neither need any special care, nor any favour. A woman just needs to ‘exist’ in this world like her male counterparts do. Why does she have to succumb to something…. or has to suffer against her wishes? Just because of the fact that God has blessed a woman with much more patience and endurance, it doesn’t allow a man to insult her, cheat her, abuse her or disgrace her. If she revolts, rebels or raises her voice against such disgraceful acts, her self-respect is thrashed…. shattered and broken into pieces…. Why is there so much dominance… supremacy of one gender to another one? Why a woman is made to compromise her dignity for the sake of a man’s pleasure…. and if she does so, why is SHE accused and blamed? Why is she marked as ‘a shame’, ‘a curse’ when she is pushed into a certain ‘defined’ situation and position against her wishes?
The motive behind such crimes and acts is to ‘show’ a woman her actual place, which is, the long drawn practice of dominance over the fairer sex. She is forced into a state of shame, guilt and insult….
She gets trapped into it and, finally, succumbs to the pressure. Oppression is a disorder, a disease. So, there has to be a concrete remedy for this problem. The best remedial way is to nurture each and every child, whether male or female, in such a way, that every child understands, respects and values the other gender. The modesty of a woman should be considered as a pride for the state, and there should be zero tolerance, in case of negligence. There is no honour or pride in dishonouring a female. Men need to think over it because “Manliness lies in protecting and respecting a woman, and not into disgracing her…If you can’t respect her, you don’t deserve her….”
“There is no chance of the welfare of the world unless the condition of women is improved. It is not possible for a bird to fly on one wing.”
– Swami Vivekananda