How does obesity impact sex, relationships and marriage ?
Having a high BMI says nothing about your ability to have sex. . It also doesn’t limit my options in available sex partners, nor does it have a negative effect on my stamina or my ability to climax.
Most people do not want to talk about the impact obesity has had on their relationships. No one wants to say that they were dumped because of their weight- or that they dumped someone because he/she grew fat.
A culture of silence is thought to permeate this issue, due to the dominant Fat Positive culture controlling the agenda. Or the problem perhaps is not that serious- or may be people accept not being able to have sex in certain positions.
First off, there’s a reason why there is a certain silence to obesity. There is a silence to homosexuality, race and sexism as well. There is misunderstanding. Because not too many people want to offend others with their misunderstandings, they choose to keep silent or at least watch their words.
1) if you look at any modeling industry, being fat is hardly positive. In fact, if you do any psychological study on young men and women in school, you will find that having what society perceives the perfect weight takes up a lot of time and emotion to the people
2) the silence does not mean that our culture is accepting, much less protective, of people over weight. All it shows is that our culture and society is still immature in that we cannot talk about things without making judgements
So.. What is the big misunderstanding with people who are over weight or obese?
Obesity, in extremely high percentages, are related to emotional distress, whether that be depression or being abused by others. In other words, being obese is normally less of a choice than most people would think. It is not just eating an extra dessert or getting a soda. It’s normally a symptom of some issue that affects the person’s emotional state. This is why, in a myriad of other reasons, we shouldn’t look down on people who are obese. It is not a habit that you find easy to change. No one can be “too strong” or “too perfect” in terms of physical health for obesity. How are you going to go on a run if all want to do is cry?